Personal Experiences of Patients
Below are personal experiences that some of our patients were kind enough to write and share. If you would be interested in sharing your own story on this site, please contact us.
Brent and Trisha
Dear Dr. Beer,
Willow Elaine was born two weeks early on Mother's Day, March 14th, 2000 at 2:19 a.m. She weighed 6 lbs. 12.7 oz and measured 19.5 inches in length. After a wonderful but intense, non-medicated, natural labor with 1 1/2 hours of pushing with no progress of her coming down into the pelvis and very ominous signs of fetal distress, a cesarean section ultimately needed to be done. One issue was that Willow was in a position that made it nearly impossible to get through. Her head was occipital posterior and turned in a way that required that she thrust her chin through the pelvis first. Since we couldn't quite communicate that to her, they went and got her. When they did, meconium was present showing she had definitely been distressed.
Fortunately, none was near her mouth, so none was aspirated. She's has had perfectly clear lungs even from the beginning. We are all doing well and are thrilled to finally have our little girl with us. Our miracle baby is everything we ever hoped for. She has a head full of wavy brown hair and looks like her mother. It was the best Mother's Day ever! Thank you for making our dream come true. We are forever in your debt.
Gratefully,
Brent and Trisha Boyer
JJS
March 1999 (This message is from INCIID Reproductive Immunology Bulletin
Board)
This message is for anyone that has suffered from M/C. Ladies please share this message with your husbands. This message is written by the husband!!!
Before Meeting Dr. Beer
My wife and I suffered for our first year of marriage with infertility. This was corrected in 1988 and we became pregnant. My wife M/C in her first 8 weeks. I remember sitting in the waiting room crying for my wife and our loss. We had to tell all our friends and family of our loss because we told everybody of our pregnancy.
Then in February of 1990 we gave birth to our only biological child (daughter). It was the happiest time of our lives. A year later we decided to have a second child. We M/C in the 1st trimester again. We went on to have 5 more miscarriages after that.
These were very difficult times. I was there for all of the ultrasounds where there was no heartbeat and the doctor did not know what to say or do. We were told everything from it just happened to your wife might later develop Lupus. They just did not know. We even tried treatments in Philadelphia where they did not analyze our case or know what they
were doing.
We decided to adopt our 2nd child in 1995, a little girl. In 1997,
my wife said she wanted to try again to have a baby. I told her it was time to give up. She said I have found a Doctor on the Internet that I think can help us and I don't want to die not knowing I didn't try everything possible. My wife asked me what would I do to have another baby. I remember saying to her I would do anything to have another baby. I would cut my arm off if I knew this would get her another baby.
Meeting Dr. Beer
In March 1998 we met Dr. Beer. I remember saying to my wife on the way to NY, you will never meet this Doctor, he is too important to see us. Well, I was very wrong. He did meet us and explained to us what was wrong from analyzing our blood work. He told us we had a good chance at having another baby this time next year.
I remember feeling this is impossible. We did all the recommended treatments and my wife became pregnant in July of 1998. We continued the treatments prescribed by Dr. Beer. My wife had ultrasounds throughout the pregnancy. I had been so sick from worry with all the previous pregnancies that this time I could not go to see the ultrasounds. I now believe that it was planned for me to be there in the past to (pick up the pieces) from the M/C's and now that my wife was under the care of Dr. Beer she could go on her own to the ultrasounds. It was going to be okay this time.
I am happy to announce the birth of our daughter on March 11, 1999. She is a beautiful, healthy, happy little girl. My wife and I are so very happy!!! To the husbands, I have a very happy wife!!! If you are struggling with M/C and need help, Dr. Beer is the only Doctor who can help you. Trust me, I know!!! This Doctor has the talent of Michael Jordan, the intelligence of Bill Gates, and the love for people in need like Mother Teresa. I say this because he is the first person in our lives (other than our parents) that cared enough about us and wanted to really help us. Dr. Beer is what a Doctor should be like. God bless you Dr. Beer.
JJS
Jane
March 1999 (This message is from INCIID Reproductive Immunology Bulletin
Board in reply to the message above from JJS)
Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful story. There are days when even us hard-core believers in Dr Beer's program need to hear the success stories such as yours.
The days get long sometimes and the small bumps and starts along our journeys throw us like potholes even when we are in Dr Beer's program. Some days, we only remember our past failed medical dead-ends not the wide-open roads that lie ahead. We need to be reminded that with Dr Beer, things are different. We don't have to be so stirred up and stressed all the time. This time the treatments work. The terrible tragedies of our past don't necessarily have to rear their ugly heads again. Though, at times, it's hard to get rid of these hidden, demon worries that continue to haunt us. Stories such as yours refresh us and revive us.
The roadblocks that exist for us, like costs and skeptical doctors that demoralize us, don't seem so strong when we hear stories such as yours, our hopes are given a little boost, our spirit given a little more fire. The feelings you describe on your journey sound so much like mine in so many ways, the incredible desperation to do just about anything ("cut your arm off") to have another baby. I know that excruciating desperation. Having other children does not necessarily make this great desperation go away. In some ways, other children only remind us exactly how much beauty we have lost before.
I think you must be some kind of husband to feel for the miscarriage pain of your wife the way you do. The scarceness of husband's posts on this Board tells me much about the rarity of your relationship with your wife. Usually it's the wife who does the grieving and fights the battles in the miscarriage war. So often its the wives that suffer alone as their well-meaning yet helpless husbands go on with their lives doing what they do, hoping their wives "will get it all figured out eventually." You have shown something completely different with your post.
Also, I so agree, Dr Beer is a great man. All the things you say about him are true. It's wonderful to hear another relate their feelings about him so eloquently. I have deep and true feelings for Dr Beer also.. your description reaffirms to me his greatness is not in my imagination. Thank you again for sharing your story. It was so appropriate and so much needed here. You sound like a wonderful, caring husband. I am so happy to hear of the safe birth of your daughter....
Jane
Margaret Presutti
February 1999
One Man--A Tribute to Dr. Beer
For all the babies who came and went without ever being born,
For all the mothers who wept and wept and remained forlorn,
For all the fathers who felt more helpless year after year,
for all of them, now and soon, God gave us Dr. Beer!
One Man who feels enough to understand the pain,
One Man who knows enough to prevent it from happening again.
One Man who cares enough to take the time to learn,
One Man who dares enough to take a different turn.
One Man who saved us from our living hell--
One Man--one man--who gave us Garbielle!!
by Margaret Presutti and Philip Stillman
After 3 lost angels, proud parents of a "Beer Baby"
MIR-A-CLE: Noun; from Latin Mirus, Wonderful
- an event or action that apparently contradicts known scientific laws;
- a remarkable thing;
- GABRIELLE MICHELLE STILLMAN, Born to Margaret and Philip on January 22, 1998 at 4:52p.m. 6lbs., 3 ozs., 18 inches
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